Reasonable Limits

Reasonable limits are very difficult for most people trying to lose weight or manage emotional eating. We tend to either be harsh or self indulgent. Like a pendulum we swing from overly indulgent to overly harsh, never asking ourselves what is "reasonable". Reasonable expectations are so important to the success of weight loss. If someone expects to lose 30 pounds in the first month, they will either be disappointed or starving. Healthy weight loss is 1 to 2 pounds per week. So, if I set myself up with a goal of 30 pounds in a month and I lose 10, I will see myself as a failure, when really I have been enormously successful. If I see myself as a failure, I might throw in the towel and overindulge in food to rebel.

Just as hurtful is self indulgence. Have you ever said, "Oh I've been good all week, so I am going to have that donut." Who does that help. Instead, set up rewards that are encouraging and self nurturing. " I have exercised 4 times this week so to reward myself I am going to meet my friend at the movies." Self nurturing not self indulgent.

We all need limits, but they must be reasonable not indulgent and not harsh. Reasonable expectations are about setting ourselves up for success and treating ourselves and our journey with respect.